Am I being manipulated? Uncovering subtle indicators

Manipulation is not always so obvious. It can be subtle, camouflaged with kindness, or born out of need or fear, making it difficult to recognize. But with a little awareness, you can learn to identify some manipulative tactics and protect yourself.

Red flags of manipulation:

Emotional blackmail: does someone use guilt, fear or duty to get what they want? Phrases like “If you really loved me...” or “You'll never find anyone like me” are emotional hooks designed to control your behavior.

Playing the victim: The person who manipulates presents him or herself as the constant victim of circumstances or the actions of others. This deflects blame and makes you responsible for their (un)happiness.

Guilt: People who manipulate stand out for their ability to blame. They bring up past mistakes or make you feel responsible for their negative emotions.

Gaslighting: An insidious tactic in which someone denies or misrepresents reality, making you question your own perceptions and sanity.

Isolation: A manipulator may try to isolate you from your friends and family, making you more dependent on them.

Being aware of manipulative tactics and prioritizing our well-being helps to take care of ourselves and build authentic relationships that nurture us.